This Woman's Facebook Post Proves Why It's Never OK to Ask Someone If They're Having Kids


Even though it's 2015, the question of "So when are ya havin' babies?" is still the No. 1 most annoying conversation starter. And although women like Tyra Banks and Jennifer Aniston have gone on record saying they're tired of being interrogated about their reproductive health status, that doesn't stop busybodies from inquiring nonetheless. 

The latest woman to speak out is Michigan woman Emily Bingham, whose recent Facebook post on the topic has been going viral over the past few days, amassing nearing 39,000 shares as of Monday morning.

The impassioned rant is accompanied by what Bingham describes as a "RANDOM ULTRASOUND PHOTO I grabbed from a Google image search." It goes on to detail her frustration with people asking about her "reproductive and procreative plans."

"People's reproductive and procreative plans and decisions are none of your business," she reminds her followers. "You don't know who is struggling with infertility or grieving a miscarriage or dealing with health issues. You don't know who is having relationship problems or is under a lot of stress or the timing just isn't right. You don't know who is on the fence about having kids or having more kids. You don't know who has decided it's not for them right now, or not for them ever. You don't know how your seemingly innocent question might cause someone grief, pain, stress or frustration."

Women really, really hate this question. Many celebrities have spoken openly about their frustration with being asked when they're planning to have kids. The last person to take a stand on this issue was supermodel and Twitter darling Chrissy Teigen, who recently opened up about her and her husband's struggle with conceiving on Banks' new daytime show FABLife.

We know that an increasing number of millennials are opting out of parenthood, and their reasons behind the decision are quite varied. But whether someone is childless by choice or not, Bingham's viral Facebook post is a helpful reminder that asking a woman why she doesn't have kids is not only rude, but it's also incredibly hurtful. Since we don't know what's going on behind the scenes, it's a question that is simply better left unasked.

As Bingham wrote on Facebook, "If a person wants to let you in on something as personal as their plans to have or not have children, they will tell you."

h/t USA Today