Depression is more complex than sadness. Here's a therapist's guide on how to actually help someone who’s going through it.
Bring them food, or help them tidy up.
When I’m having a hard time, the things I need most are company and basic housekeeping.
Talking with friends on the phone while I fold my laundry has also been a huge support.
If someone is truly inconsolable or has attempted self-harm in the past, you may have to bring that up.
But you don’t have to pretend that talking about it is easy for either of you.
“Suicidal thoughts happen to a lot of people who never intend to act on them,” says Daramus. “Ask directly if they’re at risk right now. If they’re not, just provide emotional support. Only call an ambulance or try to get them to a hospital if there’s a threat right now.”